When we experience inner conflict, it is as a result of us not living our purpose.
What does that mean?
Let’s look at what it means when we’re living our purpose.
To live our purpose is about a state of being rather than doing anything.
Almost certainly, living our purpose is construed as us doing something. Like working with animals, children, and people or saving the Amazon.
It does not exclude the aforementioned but it is not specifically about doing such.
As mentioned, instead it’s a state of being.
Let’s take a closer look!
When we recognize our purpose, and decide to live that, as an absolute decision, no matter what: That decision entails that we unconditionally accept ourselves, and thus also accept everyone and anything and everything around us.
Meaning we respect ourselves. Therefore also respect others and anything and everything – unconditionally – no matter what.
How does that materialize in our lives? Foremost, we’ll recognize that we’re okay no matter what. In reality that means we’d need nothing first to make us okay. Thus we’d be okay whether we’re in a relationship or not: Whether we’re sitting in traffic or not; whether someone cuts in-front of us or not; whether we lose our job or not; whether things go as planned or not.
Note, our okayness is not dependent on any such external circumstances, whether circumstances work out or not, whether the circumstances are favourable or not.
This might sound far-fetched or impossible or like paradise. No matter; attaining such a state of being is in our reach. It is there for us to take up. Our inner conflict exists only because we do not live our purpose. This isn’t about living it every now and then; instead it is a permanent state, once attained.
See it this way, our inner peace exists in us already. We’re not brought up to recognize our inner values. Instead we exist in a world where we’re judged in almost all that we do. We’re brought up to be gratified externally. We let the external world cause disarray for our internal world.
Stand back, let’s take a look at our own lives. Do our lives exist to be gratified externally by for instance: the way we look, dress, what car we drive, what job we have. That we feel secure because we have money.
Such external stimulus and circumstances are not long-lasting, and have to be topped up continuously as they fade.
Whereas when we uncover our inner values, we notice they are there forever; and merely given opportunity to be exuded, moment for moment.
So when we become irritated, frustrated, angry, when our inner peace is missing, even if momentarily, recognize this as us not being okay unconditionally.
Taking a closer look to another level: What happens when we stop pursuing external things to be okay? We do things because we are okay! By doing things because we are okay, we are living our purpose.
Different things are important to us. We’re interested in different things. Our life shifts from wanting to giving. Simply, we’re not looking for value from what we do, instead we bring value to what we do; our value, our purpose.
The car becomes transport; the house becomes a roof over our heads, the clothing about being dressed and being comfortable, and so forth.
What do we do when we want to live our purpose and don’t know where to start?
In the same vein, what if we don’t know what our life purpose is? Or what our own value is?
Where and how do we start?
First: Acknowledge this is what we want, to live our purpose, and we don’t know where to start.
Acknowledge further that even though we don’t know what our life purpose is, we want to pursue it, even if we don’t know how.
Acknowledge further that we do not like it when we lose our inner peace.
Acknowledge further that we recognize the dynamic of being okay no matter the circumstances, and that we want that state of being, even if we don’t know how to attain it.